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How men and women experience depression differently

Depressive disorders are a complex and often confusing family of conditions. Sometimes lumped under the general term “depression,” these disorders can cause any combination of several symptoms. Because of this, depressive disorders manifest in a variety of ways, making them sometimes difficult to diagnose.

The most common form of depression, major depressive disorder, can come on at any age or stage in life. Older people tend to experience many similar symptoms, as do new mothers. Women experience depression at twice the rate of men, and the genders often experience depression in distinctly different ways, but it isn’t always clear why.

Forms of Depression

Major depression is the form of depression you probably think about when someone says the word. Major depressive episodes may come and go, and occur only once in a person’s life. More commonly, however, depression lasts longer than two years, and episodes, or bouts of depression, recur over a person’s lifetime. When a depressed mood lasts for more than two years, it is called persistent depressive disorder.

Other types of depression are shorter lived. Seasonal affective disorder is a depression brought on by winter when there is less natural sunlight, and it usually lifts during the spring. Postpartum depression occurs after childbirth and is estimated to occur in 10 to 15 percent of women after giving birth, according to the National Institutes of Health (NIH).

Female Depression

t’s well known that hormones greatly affect mood and emotions, and as such play a major part in depressive disorders. Women often experience depression symptoms when hormonal changes occur in the body. This includes hormone spikes during ovulation, menstruation and pregnancy as well as after childbirth and throughout menopause. Depression most commonly occurs in women between the ages of 40 and 59.

Women are more likely to seek help and be diagnosed with depression, and as a result are more likely to take medication for their depression. Other than hormonal influences, it is still unclear why depression appears more frequently in women than men. Women tend to cope with depression by withdrawing from the world, oversleeping and having low self-esteem.

Male Depression: Still Hidden

Men may experience many of the same symptoms women do, such as feeling blue, fatigue and loss of enjoyment in daily activities. Men also experience a range of symptoms not common in women, such as unexplained anger and depression without sadness.

Men with depression may also behave differently from their female counterparts. Depressed men often exhibit escapist behavior, like spending a lot of time at work or on hobbies. They may also be more likely to abuse substances, become irritable and engage in violent behavior more so than depressed women.

Some men find it difficult to talk about their emotions and therefore may not be as forthcoming as women with depression symptoms. As a result, many depressed men go a long time without treatment. Experts believe this is why men with depression are more likely to attempt suicide, and are more likely to die from suicide— a statistic that is true all over the world.

Asking for Help

Some people believe they must be strong and stoic at any cost— even if that cost is their emotional and mental well-being. However, denial of symptoms and avoidance of treatment can become deadly in depressed adults.

f you feel you may have a depressive disorder, you should know it’s OK to seek help. Contact your physician, who may be able to diagnose your symptoms and refer you to an appropriate specialist. If you or someone you know is expressing suicidal behaviors or thoughts, call the national suicide hotline at 1-800-273-8255 right away to get help.

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NEW YORK — The next time a guy you know gets the flu, you may want to show him a little more sympathy.

A new study shows that men may be more likely to catch the flu than women and suffer more from the symptoms, CBS New York reports.

That’s unfortunate news for many men, since experts say a flu-filled winter could be on the way.

“This year they are predicting that it’s going to be a particularly bad year,” said Dr. Jake Deutsch, clinical director at CURE Urgent Care, told CBS2’s Maurice Dubois. Health officials say this year’s flu vaccine is less effective than usual against certain strains of the virus, leaving many people vulnerable even if they got a flu shot.

The study from Stanford University School of Medicine found that the flu vaccine may be more effective in women than in men, and for women who do get the flu, the study found they are better at fighting the virus off.

“Are men less equipped to deal with infection? Technically, yes,” Deutsch said.

The reason, according to the study that was conducted on mice, is the female sex hormone estrogen.

“The female mice that produced estrogen produced an enzyme and that enzyme was able to help them fight infection,” Deutsch explained.

It may be a simple result of evolution. “There’s an idea there that estrogen, which is native to women’s endocrine system, is there because part of their role is to be nurturers. They have to take care of not only themselves, but their families,” he said.

Some women, however, interpreted the findings a bit differently: as scientific evidence backing up what they already believed, that men are bigger babies when it comes to getting sick.

“They seem to whine more and they seem to want to ride it out longer,” one woman told CBS New York.

“They think they don’t need help and they don’t accept help, and they don’t take medicine,” another woman said.

Of course, some men disagreed, but Deutsch had to admit he’s seen signs of it himself. “Anecdotally, I can say that a lot of times guys are wimpier when it comes to being sick,” he said.

The study could eventually help pave the way for new immune-boosting drugs.

“I think there is the possibility of somehow delivering the key elements of estrogen to men in a safe way in order to activate that enzyme,” Deutsch said.

Doctors do not recommend that men take estrogen supplements, but they do suggest other ways of boosting immunity, including getting plenty of sleep and vitamin C.

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Men tend to take more risks than women do, and they also seem to be ahead of women in engaging in risky behavior that is extremely “idiotic,” according to researchers who revealed in a new study that the majority of the receivers of a Darwin Award are men.

To win a Darwin Award, a darkly humorous honor that has existed for more than 20 years, a person must die in “an extraordinarily idiotic manner,” and thereby protect the human gene pool and improve the species’ chances of long-term survival. For example, one person in the new study was a “terrorist who posted a letter bomb with insufficient postage stamps and who, on its return, unthinkingly opened his own letter,” the researchers wrote.

In a special Christmas issue of the BMJ (a lighthearted edition of the medical journal that normally publishes serious research), researchers in the United Kingdom used the Darwin Award database to examine an idea they call “male idiot theory,” to see whether men’s generally higher inclination for risk-taking extends to taking “idiotic risks.” [Macho Man: 10 Wild Facts About His Body]

The researchers reviewed the stories of all nominees for the Darwin Award from 1995 to 2014, noting the gender of the winner. To win a Darwin Award, the story of how the death happened must be verifiable, and the person must have been capable of sound judgment, while showing “an astonishing misapplication of common sense.”

The researchers looked at 332 cases confirmed by the Darwin Awards Committee to be true incidents. For their analysis, they excluded 14 cases of deaths of adventurous couples, leaving them with 318 cases.

Of those, just 36 were women. The other 282 winners, or 88.7 percent, were men, the researchers found.

The findings support the researchers’ theory that “men are idiots, and idiots do stupid things,” they said.

The theory could also explain some of the gender gap previous studies have found in risk-seeking behaviors, emergency department visits and mortality, the researchers said. Men are more likely than women to be admitted to an emergency department after accidental injuries or with a sport injury, and they are more likely to die in traffic accidents.

Men may be more likely to play riskier sports or have dangerous occupations, but they might also do more stupid things, according to the study.

Still, it is also possible that the makeup of Darwin Award winners is biased toward men because cases involving women may not get reported as often.

In addition, alcohol use and its effects may be different among men and women and could potentially impact how many of each group will end up in an event leading to a Darwin Award, the researchers added.

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By Anna Breslaw

If you call another woman a slut, I’ll use your bones to make furniture.

1. “Men are more rational, and women are more emotional.” And cats like the color red, and dogs will only listen to Jason Derulo, and that ficus bush is your cousin. Oh, I thought we were making nonsense statements.

2. “Women can’t drive.” We don’t have, like, giant tampons for heads. Don’t be a moron.

3. “You’re funny/smart for a girl.” OMG thank you! I hope to rise above the ranks and someday be considered smart for a human, but this is a great honor.

4. “Girls all want to marry rich.” Some girls want to marry rich. Other girls want to marry the person they love, whether s/he is rich or poor or an alien who uses peacock feathers as currency. And other girls don’t want to get married! So like, that’s how that works.

5. “I don’t get why women love assholes.” Yeah, actually, that whole thing where you pretend to be a dick to make women like you will only work on women who don’t like themselves. And that’s doomed to fail, really.

6. “Women don’t like nice guys.” See above, and no, we’re not nuts about self-proclaimed “Nice Guys” who sit around acting butthurt that no girls like them. You’re not entitled to sex just because you held the door for a woman.

7. “You’re secretly just waiting to quit work and be a housewife, aren’t you?” Nope, but even if I was, there’d be nothing wrong with it. Being a housewife with kids is work.

8. “[X] is a slut.”

9. “[X] seems like a bitch.” Why? Because she’s independent, outspoken and runs shit? Hillary Clinton doesn’t seem like a bitch, or “sexless,” which I commonly hear men say about her. Just because she busts balls doesn’t mean she doesn’t like them.

10. “Girls are crazy!” Nope, pretty sure that’s just them being smarter than you.

11. “You’re not like other women, you’re cool.” I know you’re trying to compliment me, but saying that I’m the super-chill “loophole” in an otherwise-lame gender is offensive to me as a woman who loves women.

12. “Calm down.” I … I can’t.

13. “You look great for your age.” Am I supposed to look like Grandmother Willow? I am so glad that my bark is more supple than you expected. I maintain my youth by bathing in the blood of offensive, clueless men.

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Thanks to JAB, D&V and JT

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AKA Apples and Wine


WOMEN are like apples on trees. The best ones are at the top of the tree. Most men don’t want to reach for the good ones because they are afraid of falling and getting hurt. Instead, they just take the rotten apples from the ground that aren’t as good, but easy…The apples at the top think something is wrong with them, when in reality, they’re amazing. They just have to wait for the right man to come along, the one who’s brave enough to climb all the way to the top of the tree.



Now MEN…men are like fine wine. They start out as grapes, and it’s up to women to stomp the crap out of them and keep them in the dark until they mature into something acceptable to have dinner with.







Share this with other women who are good apples,
even those who have already been picked!
Thanks to PH, J&B and SS; ‘grapes’ also thanks to JAB, D&V and MZ

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AKA(Underwear) Dust


One evening a husband, thinking he was being funny, said to his wife “Maybe we should start washing your clothes in Slim Fast. Perhaps it would take a few inches off your bum!”
His wife was not amused, and decided that she simply couldn’t let such a comment go unrewarded.
The next morning the husband took a pair of underwear out of his drawer. “What the Hell is this?” he said to himself, as a little ‘dust’ cloud appeared when he shook them out.
“Marcy,” he hollered into the bathroom, “Why did you put talcum powder in my underwear?”
She replied, “It’s not powder…it’s Miracle Grow!”


Thanks to PH and…

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A man walks into a pharmacy and wanders up & down the aisles. The sales clerk notices him and asks him if she can help him. He answers that he is looking for a box of tampons for his wife. She directs him down the correct aisle. A few minutes later, he deposits a huge bag of cotton balls and a ball of string on the counter.
She says, confused, “Sir, I thought you were looking for some tampons for your wife?
He answers, “You see, it’s like this, yesterday, I sent my wife to the store to get me a carton of cigarettes, and she came back with a tin of tobacco and some rolling papers; cause it’s sooo-ooo–oo-ooo much cheaper. So, I figure if I have to roll my own…so does she.


Thanks to J&B and…

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Take off clothing and sort it into sectioned laundry hamper according colour group. Walk to bathroom wearing long dressing gown;
if you see husband along the way, cover up any exposed areas.

Look at your womanly physique in the mirror
make mental note to do more sit-ups/leg-lifts,

Get in the shower. Use face cloth, arm cloth, leg cloth,
loofah, wide loofah AND pumice stone.

Wash your hair once with cucumber and sage shampoo with 43 added vitamins.
Wash your hair again to make sure it’s clean.
Condition your hair with grapefruit mint conditioner enhanced.

Wash your face with crushed apricot facial scrub for 10 minutes until red. Wash entire rest of body with ginger-nut-and-jaffa-cake body wash.

Rinse conditioner off hair.

Shave armpits and legs.

Turn off shower. Squeegee off all wet surfaces in shower.
Spray mould spots with Tilex. Get out of shower.

Dry with towel the size of a small country. Wrap hair in super absorbent towel.

Return to bedroom wearing long dressing gown and towel on head.
If you see husband along the way, cover up any exposed areas.


Take off clothes while sitting on the edge of the bed and leave them in a pile.

Walk naked to the bathroom.

If you see wife along the way, shake wiener at her making the woo-woo sound.

Look at your manly physique in the mirror.
Admire the size of your wiener and scratch your ass.

Get in the shower. Wash your face. Wash your armpits.

Blow your nose in your hands and let the water rinse them off. (Ooooo)

Fart and laugh at how loud it sounds in the shower.

Spend majority of time washing privates and surrounding area.

Wash your bum, leaving those coarse hairs stuck on the soap. (Ooooo)

Wash your hair. Make a Shampoo Mohawk.


Rinse off and get out of shower.

Partially dry off.

Fail to notice water on floor because curtain was hanging out of tub the whole time.

Admire wiener size in mirror again.

Leave shower curtain open, wet mat on floor, light and fan on.

Return to bedroom with towel around waist. If you pass wife, pull off towel, shake wiener at her and make the woowoo sound again.

Throw wet towel on bed.

If there is anyone among you who did not laugh at the truth behind this, there is something SO very wrong with you. Have a great day! Oh, and…woo woo!!!

Thanks to J&B and…

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